Monday, July 31, 2006

The New and Great Micah J. Wesley



There he is. In the flesh. Well, sort of. Early baby photos are so cliche that they fail to impact like they ought. They cannot express the incredible Big Bang, the explosion of life, the burst of light, the mercy of another creation, the joy of love, the hope of starting from scratch, the "weight of glory" before our eyes once again. I am not biased. This is every baby. That was you. That was me. All our hopes and fears bundled anew. It's AWEsome.

Praha and Great Mysteries

Where are we now? On the very outskirts of Prague, Czech Republic. Driving across the border I felt a little edgier. Neither of us speak a stitch of Czech, and currently the Czechs are scaring me. Some seriously grisly guys live here. And the Czechs aren't big on smiling.

Day 3 here is half way along and we still haven't yet made it into the city, which is full of tourists no doubt, and the sights and sounds that will make it feel like any other European city. We're enjoying too much the three things we've been craving: a fridge, a washing machine, and a computer with an internet connection. The privacy ain't bad either. And a bed. And a bathroom within 200 metres. All little pleasures that cannot be underestimated.

We're housesitting for a generous German we met only three days ago. Her three bedroom flat is our temporary refuge from sightseeing. Reading, sleeping, typing, cutting and pasting, going to the cinema and grocery is all we're doing. I've heard Prague is lovely, but I wouldn't know (yet). Out all the windows of her three bedroom walk-up are endless concrete monstrosities for as far as the eye can see. Large grey behemoths from Communist days. This apt is like every other in all these buildings built by the State: built from spare parts, boxy, functional. Our lovely hostess has tried to cheer it up with two cats (who will not stop meowing for love), two guinea pigs (who fortunately took a vacation while we're here), endless pictures of kittens and horses, an ocean of bric-a-brac and 70s crafts (pinecone hedgehogs and such), and about 200 houseplants (which I have yet to water). It's like staying in Grandma's motorhome. Cozy, hairy, everything you need.

We are very thankful.

And chilling is doing our marriage good. "Marital bliss is a lot of pressure on two people." This hot cat and tired dog are feeling the pressure. Every couple we know has assured us that they fight more on holidays than not. This helps. But it is not quite what you hope for if you know what I mean. As we near the five year mark (August 18), its just sinking in that the honeymoon is over. Over. And I find myself repeating to myself what the Bible says about marriage--it's a great mystery. It's a great mystery that living together doesn't kill the love! I confess that I am not always as charming as I may seem. (Just between you and me.) But on and on we go. You roll over and there they are--hogging the blanket, pushing you off the bed, dragging in crumbs and dirt--but each morning when Matt's eyes first open and he sees me, he smiles wide. Every single day. Without fail. I really can't believe. THAT is a great mystery.

Sunday, July 30, 2006

"Paris beckons."

First, corrections and addendum:

Some horrendous spelling, grammar, and punctuation mistakes cropped up in the previous blogs. Shameful. But my lame excuse is that I was on a French keyboard last time, and rushed, thus no time to spellcheck. Unacceptable. The only error that really matters is that Kate's baby's middle name is not Jomathan, it's Jonathan. You probably guessed that, but I also forgot to mention he arrived on July 19. I feel particularly convicted on writing correct English after recently reading "Eats, Shoots and Leaves". I laughed my butt off. Who knew reading about punctuation could be so funny? Read it. If you want.

Now, back to travel adventures:

In Praha (Prague) now. After two days inVersailles and two days of plowing through French, German, and Czech countryside. We're whipping through the countries now. But, before I get to that, I better tell you about Paris, the most glamourous and chic city in the world, or so they'd like us to believe.

Ok. Paris is quite glamourous and chic. It is. It's true. Who wants to admit the French have that certain "je ne sais quoi" we don't? But we have to. It became apparent as soon we were just waiting to get on the train there and we were surrounded by an equal measure of Brits and Frenchfolk. The French sauntered with cool unconscious nonchalance. Sleek, interesting, bronzed. Ooo la la. I so want to be like that. But I am oh so self-aware. Every wrinkle in my bland shorts, each too pink part on my skin, my clumsy French. And the Brits, well, they're just posing. Sorry to you Brits out there. Brits have their strengths: efficient postal system, colonization, and, um...well, we're not talking about them anyway.

Parisiennes. Despite their near statue-like perfection and their reputation for being very conscious of this, we found them to be helpful and pleasant. We witnessed some heated arguments (on a bus and in a market) to support claims to their passionate nature. And the whole place just has a different feel. They break for lunch midday. Eat, wine, conversation, rest. It feels less rushed, more relaxed. People lounging about--stretched on hot grass, feet in algae-filled fountains, leaning about in charming street cafes and bars. We liked it.

And the beauty. The buildings curve. Fountains and statues glitter in their goldleaf skins. Each corner looks thought about by a people who care for human and inspiring aesthetics. Paris oozes charm and taste. The place floors you in a way unlike London. And the astounding number of tourists attested to this as well.

And where did we reside for our week in this inspiring and chic city? On a tiny, crowded dirt hill. Fitting, non? The large campground we stayed in buzzed with noisy tourists, afloat on its own sewage and garbage which it produced with healthy proliferation. The smell made me crazy. But not as crazy as being crowded onto a tiny patch of dirt the size of a small backyard with twenty other tents, with all of us trying to pretend the others didn't exist just so we could pretend to have some measure of privacy. Taps that only stayed on with constant pressing. Dirty sinks. Hot showers on hot days and cold ones on cool nights. The prices, the heat, the noise. It all started to break me down like cruel torture. In the most fashionable place on earth, I was most unfashionably starting to truly lose it. By the end of the week, I was crying to return home to all that was familiar and clean and didn't smell like shit and piss in every nook and cranny. (Excuse my crudeness, but this was my desperation.)

Fortunately, each morning is new. And cooler (30 Celsius instead of 38 or 40). And we learned. Instead of walking, we hopped local busses and toured the city via commuter routes, which was fun and interesting. We turned up in little corners that tourists don't with flea markets and street markets with cheap and fresh produce and immigrant streets. Turkish cafes filled with men smoking their long strange pipes. Big African mamas in full African garb. Arab men in their little hats arm in arm. All nationalities and languages I don't usually have the opportunity to hear. This was my favorite time in Paris. The "real" Paris. We even saw regular white folks--Parisiennes that were not so cool, just normal. Like us. Sort of.

Of course we did the tourist route. The Eiffel Tower, the Louvre, Arc de Triomphe, and so on. What was amazing about these was that despite the crowds, the million photos I've seen of these, they are still awesome. More impressive than I even expected. Even Matt was impressed. And his fierce patriotism makes him difficult to impress let me tell you.

The best moments of these was crawling about the Louvre in hidden and abandoned corners that no one cared about, while hundreds shoved their way to the small Mona Lisa, the headless Winged Victory, and the armless Venus de Milo to take their requisite tourist photos. The Louvre is massive. Walking about its three wings and multiple floors is to walk a good few kilometers. Not only the art, but this formal royal palace itself overwhelms. Its courtyard has a giant glass pyramid with four smaller ones flanking it and green triangular pools. I felt most impacted by a small painting of Jesus showing only his head and torso with loose ropes from which he surely could loose himself, which reminded me that his act was a choice. For love, we can choose what feels most inconvenient, unknown, terrifying, and even painful. I've been thinking about choices lately--mostly my fear and relentless avoidance of them. But not choosing is a choice. And to never choose is to choose death eventually, as my suicidal brother taught me.

Another highlight: lying on our backs on benches under the Eiffel Tower at sunrise before the maddening crowds. Mostly just us except for the unlucky cleaners who try to sweep and rinse away the huge piles of garbage from the tourists the day before and the armed guards with their bored fingers on the triggers of their automatic rifles. It was almost romantic. And Matt and I were sorely in need of some romance by then.

This was Paris. We missed so much, but had our fill. So we hopped in our brand new (rented) Renault Turbo Clio and pressed onward.

Sunday, July 23, 2006

IT'S A BOY!!

After 3 long days of agonizing labour Kate finally delivered a healthy, 7lbs 8 ozs baby boy. Yay Kate!! They've named him Micah Jomathan Wesley. He is well. She is tired and sore, and now their new life begins. Yikes! Very exciting. I am only sad that I will not get to squeeze him for 3 months. Thanks for tuning in, folks!

Tuesday, July 18, 2006

Belfast

We stayed in Belfast for a couple of nights before touring around Ireland and then again for one night a week later. Belfast is beautiful, but the tension can be felt especially in the heat of the summer.
Piles of wood ready for burning on the night of July 11 to celebrate the Orangemen marching on July 12. These piles grews to the height of eight men before they were done.


A protestant mural emphasizing that you're not safe from our guns— anywhere. I wonder how growing up in this shadow affects you.


Catholic murals identifying themselves with other struggles around the world. The guy on the left was the first "blanket man". A prisoner who wore a blanket instead of prison uniform in protest of having his political-prisoner status stripped.


Queen's University just down the road from Ben and Caroline Parsons. Nice school.

In Belfast dogs are prohibited from backing into small campfires. This common practice is known as fouling.

A Sandra by any other name will still take beautiful pictures of every rose garden we pass. This was only one rose in a huge garden (thousands of varieties), but my allergies kept me on the sideline with a hanky.

The Emerald Isle


It's always great to have a reminder, heh?


Walking to Carrick-a-Reed rope bridge on the Northern Island coast. Is that not the most amazing cliffs you've ever seen--chalk white sliding into aqua seas.


Matt and binoculars: a study.


On the rope bridge.


My new friend.


At the Giant's Causeway, also along the northern coast of Northern Ireland. Simply magical (I know that's cheesy to say that, but it was sort of true, since we came before the mega-crowd at 7 am).


The Causeway. 40, 000 hexagonal pillars pushed up from the ocean, all mashed together. A zillion years old and previously thought to have been built by a giant from Scotland fighting a giant from Ireland.


Mega boulders at the Causeway.

Sandy in the pillars.


Um, gorgeous beach. Did you ever imagine Ireland was this gorgeous? Me neither.

Eire - Two

It's a very green landscape this Ireland.


On the beach just below the shepherd in the next picture. Black and white reduces the glare off my forehead.


A shepherd on a hilltop. He's got a cane and all the time in the world.


Matt chilling in the sunset against a 3000 yr old fort on a hilltop.


hiking up Slieve League. a beautiful mountain 2000 ft above the sea. Good walk, good talk.


The view as we walked.


We started from the looping road below.


Sandra found it a little sunny without her hat, so I lent her my shirt– I had two.


A nice portrait at the top.


Little lamb, who made thee?


The telephone pole vegetation management in Ireland leaves a little to be desired.

Hit me, Ireland, one more time!


Sunset at Strandhill on the Western coast of Eire.


Us pretending to relax.


Me being sacrilegious at an ancient burial site.


Same burial site, but I was alone, and thus more truly contemplative. Here people had come to bury and mourn their dead for 5000 years and their grief mingled with mine for a time while I mourned my brother's death. It felt like a relief to have a physical place to release it, while only a lazy herd of cows watched. As we toured this site where people piled rocks to remember their dead, I thought how little human beings have changed. We still place a rock to remember, because it feels vital to do so. Here I remembered my brother on the anniversary of his death 4 yrs ago. I try to remember him. This ancient site helped me that day.


Oozy green: I like it.


Doolin, West coast of Ireland. Looking towards our campsite where we rested two nights, watched World Cup, heard traditional music, and cleaned up after Matt dumped red wine on most of my limited wardrobe.


Fairy in Doolin.


Yep, uh huh.


Ireland posing for a cliche photo.


Pulnaborne--most photographed site inIreland in the Burrenm a totally rocky, lunar-like, barren landscape inIreland. This is the most famous dolmen (rock pile burial site) in the country.


The wind blows so hard and so constant in Ireland that the trees are permanently blown to the side.


Some of that blowing and storming just mentioned.


Ditto.


Wee, colourful Irish villages. They win "tidy town" awards.


The Simpsons....dee dee dee dee...


The classic Irish shot.


Me trying to convince Matt to buy a stack of sheep back's.


"The most beautiful view in all the realm," said the queen's companion. Indeed.


Eire - Last Day - Jerpoint, Kilkenny, Stradbally

The last day in Ireland was a full one. We visited a beautiful old place called Jerpoint Abbey and then proceeded to find the stomping grounds of the clan Cosby before they came to Canada. We also took a tour of Kilkeeny Castle.




This is a Cadbury whippy. It is a soft-serve ice cream cone with a rolled stick of chocolate in it. Price: varies
Satisfaction: guaranteed
Best Before: about 5 minutes in current heat.

Kilkeeny Castle. nice, if you got the means and servants to maintain it.


Stradbally is home of the Cosby's for 500 yrs. They arrived with Cromwell to put down the Irish. We tried not to put anyone down this time.



Stradbally town. It's a one street, working-man's town.

Official Cosby tomb.

Old graveyard with official Cosby church (under which is Cosby's tomb) and lots of various Cosby's 6 feet under.

Cosby church in ruins--symbolic??

Stradbally Hall aka Chez Cosby.



Knock hard Sandra or they won't hear you. (Stradbally's front door--which looks out at the sheep munching the front lawn.



That's right. You've seen this room before in Lassie Returns. (Inside Stradbally.)



There was a whole series of taxidermied rodents arranged in various stages of a boxing match. Weird man, weird. (Inside the now lack-lustre Stradbally, too.)